"Rare condition left me unable to have sex - now I'm expecting miracle baby at 41"
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Saffron Mullen, 41, struggled to have intercourse due to a rare anatomical problem causing a blockage in her vagina - which required surgery.
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Hide AdBut the procedure to open the blockage, aged 23, made it worse and left her with severe scar tissue - meaning sex was still impossible.
She had to wait years for a sexual therapy to become available that would fix it.
In the meantime she had found herself battling debilitating fatigue and immune problems - a symptom later found to be caused by undiagnosed endometriosis.
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Hide AdShe also suffered with a neurological problem in her oesophagus, called achalasia, which made eating and swallowing difficult.
Over the years Saffron contended with the conditions - which took a toll on her mental and physical health, relationships, and career.
She began changing her diet, mindset and lifestyle choices over time to improve her health in the hope that one day she could become a mum if she met the right man.
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Hide AdIn June 2023 she had a surgery to remove lesions caused by her endometriosis, and in April 2023 underwent an operation to help her manage the symptoms of the achalasia.
At the same time, she met her partner, who doesn't want to be named, and they decided to try for a baby - despite doctors warning her it would be difficult because she was 40.
But Saffron said she "just knew" she'd be OK and decided to turn down IVF to try getting pregnant naturally.
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Hide AdWithin four months she was expecting - and now, aged 41, her "miracle" son is due mid-October.
Saffron, a wellness coach, from Glasgow, said: "I couldn't have sex at all until I was 29.
"But at that time I was diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome after years of debilitating fatigue and illness.
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Hide Ad"It was later discovered that the syndrome was a side-effect of extensive endometriosis.
"Luckily the endometriosis hadn't affected my ovaries but I was so ill because of the achalasia that I couldn't even think about family planning.
"I had my endometriosis surgery then my achalasia surgery in summer of 2023, around the time I met my partner and we decided to start a family.
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Hide Ad"Doctors suggested I do IVF or freeze my eggs because of my age - but something told me I needed to follow what nature intended.
"I conceived naturally days before turning 41 - I feel like I manifested it because I believed strongly and I was determined to prove the statistics wrong."
Saffron's anatomical problem preventing her having sex involved a partial blockage in the vaginal canal which wouldn't go away on its own.
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Hide AdSaffron learned the same issue had caused the death of her grandmother's sister, Sarah, who died at 14 in the 1930's when she suffered toxic shock syndrome after being unable to bleed freely on her period.
Saffron's first surgery should have fixed the issue but she still ended up unable to have sex because scar tissue developed when she wasn't given the right aftercare.
Saffron said her sexual difficulties resulted in her being cheated on in multiple past relationships.
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Hide AdShe said: "There's only so much understanding a person can have, and I was dealing with health problems as well as sexual ones.
"Previous partners found it too much - it made me feel like I had nothing to offer."
At 29 she began having a form of sexual physiotherapy called pelvic floor therapy, which allowed her to eventually recover and have a normal sex life.
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She said: "It was just one thing after the other - it was like a comedy script."
The reproductive condition, which causes womb lining to grow elsewhere in the body, caused pain and heavy periods.
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Hide AdShe had had the condition for years, but the pain was chalked up IBS and chronic fatigue until diagnosis in 2019.
Saffron had separately been diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome, after experiencing extreme fatigue and ill health, which had actually turned out to be side effects linked to the endometriosis.
She ended up changing her whole lifestyle in a bid to improve the symptoms she was experiencing.
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Hide AdThese included switching to a plant-based diet to reduce digestive inflammation, and cutting out chemical exposure by using only natural deodorant and skincare, and using only organic products.
She also took up hobbies such as meditating, reading self-help books and going for nature walks with her dogs to improve her mental wellbeing.
She was then diagnosed with achalasia, an oesophageal condition, in early 2023.
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Hide AdAfter having her surgeries in April and June 2023, she met her current partner and they felt ready to try for a baby.
She now has a normal and healthy sex life now after years of struggles, surgery and therapy.
Saffron said: "Doctors said because of my age, I should think about freezing my eggs for going through IVF.
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Hide Ad"I knew the biology wasn't in my favour but I thought if I'm doing everything to keep my reproductive system healthy, it might happen.
"I didn't want to hear about the chances of miscarriage - we just put it in the hands of the universe.
"In February I found out I was pregnant, and I found out at the gender scan we're having a boy.
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Hide Ad"I'm proof just because someone is older it doesn't mean they'll have problems naturally conceiving.
"I'm confident if I hadn't kept a strong mindset this wouldn't have happened.
"I'm sharing my story to raise awareness of long diagnosis journeys and how medical professionals can understand this better.
"As well as the assumptions made about women and their biological clock and how we can try to manage our lives better around chronic conditions."
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